Our suffering, individual and collective is rooted in a sense of separation. It manifests subtly as isolation, jealousy, indignation. It’s indeed humbling to assert our interdependence even as unique expressions of life. But the times are changing as the planets seem to reassert. If we manage to keep our focus within, coming months shall be great for all human endeavours and more clarity shall emerge in all spheres of life.
Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won’t have a title until much later. – Bob Goff
Learning To Let Go
I have seen people in my laughter yoga sessions who seem unable to drop the mask of identity, and therefore, can’t bring themselves to laugh – sometimes for an entire 30-40 minute session. That takes some effort! Afraid to dare to be liberated from the role they have unconsciously imposed on themselves, and so bound up in their projected image, they feel they can’t risk losing control by laughing like an innocent child in front of strangers.
We are inevitably vulnerable and insecure with others when we carry the illusion of a special identity. This strong and inflexible sense of individuated self or nationhood and, the delusion of superiority and exclusiveness is what allows racism to flourish, and ultimately feeds the belief that we don’t need each other.
Sense Of Separation And Suffering
The more we cling to an idea or an identity, the more there will be suffering. Many people find it difficult to relate to the idea of suffering because they conceive of it as something dramatic, horrible and painful. But suffering is often quite subtle, even unconscious.
It can come in the form of a vague sense of isolation, jealousy, indignation or resentment. All of these and more are the result of our ego attachments – the delusion that we are of a particular nationality, religion, culture or social class. These attachments to geography, race, belief or history – as if these things were solid and fixed – inevitably lead to more and more suffering on an individual and collective scale. World events offer us many glaring examples of this principle in action.
Facing The Truth
2016 has seen a crystallization of this process in such an obvious, striking and painful way that many people are now forced to ask themselves some difficult questions, perhaps for the first time ever.
It’s hard to drop the narrative of independence and superiority, and whether as a teenager or a nation, it’s the same process. At some point the pain of separation becomes too exhausting to bear.
It’s too much effort to sustain the drama and we surrender to the obvious – no human is an island, and we are all profoundly interconnected in ways the everyday human mind can only attempt to understand. It’s quite humbling to recognize that we are fundamentally the same, and we truly need each other to survive.